What is wrong with my daughter, Gina? Help!!?

by admin on Mar.15, 2010, under STAYING YOUNG

This is my 24 year old daughter's typical, normal day: Wake up and before even brushing her teeth/breakfast, still in bed, FACEBOOK for 15-20 minutes. Then she gets ready and has lunch with her friend and basically stays out with friends doing random, unproductive things to kill time until nighttime so they can go out- coffee, just "hanging out," shopping…
She MIGHT come home for dinner. Then she gets ready to go out – club, bar, whatever. Comes home at 4am, FACEBOOK for 10-15 minutes before falling asleep, and next day, pretty much the same. Right now she works part time and it seems her only goal in life is to make a lot of money so she can live and go out like the girls on that MTV show, The Hills. This is my opinion.

By the way while doing all of the above, or if she's home, it's either facebook or chatting through her Blackberry. I didn't bother her too much about it when she was 21- 22 years old thinking it's just a stage but it hasn't got any better.

I want her to be more self-sufficient and be an "independent woman" but all she cares about is going out, fashion and boys. I would like to mention, she was not like this as a child and high school. She's a smart girl, booksmart and streetsmart. She used to love books and she was a straight A student. Maybe that's why? She's been sheltered, so now she's letting loose?

I try to tell her to read books and stay home sometimes and just be at peace, but she's stubborn and all these things have control of her like a drug. SHE CAN'T STOP. She's checks her phone every 5 minutes while we're talking, having dinner…doesn't matter.

The worse part is ALL OF HER FRIENDS BEHAVE THIS WAY. This facebook thing is outta control! These young, fresh minds are sitting at home looking at photos of friends and people they don't even know. They don't even gossip, they just look at photos of other people partying, traveling…etc.

What is the problem? Help? What should I do? I've tried every approach be she doesn't listen to me. She listens to her friends.

:15 Minutes, 22 Years, Blackberry, Booksmart, Checks, Coffee, Facebook, Fashion, Fresh Minds, Gossip, Independent Woman, Looking At Photos, Lunch, Mtv, Mtv Show The Hills, Nighttime, Part Time, Peace, Smart Girl, Teeth

10 Comments for this entry

Vanessa Hudgens
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
fist pumping is addictive
miley cyrus
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
That sounds typical She's in her 20's, let her do what she wants and have a good time. Soon enough she'll snap back to reality and things won't be fun anymore
taylor swift
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
i dont know have you checked out what she is posting on facebook
taylor lautner
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
Well umm considering that your daughters over the age of 20..? She still lives with you? But any way when your in your twenties all you want to do is party and live your young life. If she wants to move out let her, less stress for you. and if she is twenty and obviously is not listening to you, she'll have to learn the hard way. But before she leaves sit her down or write a letter to her, dont hold back(tough love). And tell her how you feel.
miley cyrus
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
Look how do you think i feel? ALL MY FRIENDS ACT LIKE THAT! i prefer to stay at home and chat over a small drink, so i NEVER see my friends. I'm depressed and LONELY most of the time, but i can't stand clubbing. Would you rather have a happy 20+ y/o, or a deeply depressed one? Source(s): 20 in august (legal drinking age 18 over here, haven't had my first legal drink yet!)
selena gomez
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
Try leaving her alone with no money for a time. She will have to deepen on her friends or herself. It's a test of friendship and self.Negative: she may leave you forever if her friends come though.
miley cyrus
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
there nothing wrong with her.she is just being herself. but if she living with you and it trouble you thenyou need to change your house rule.does she paid you rent for staying with you or help out. think out your child has grow up and her life change,she not into the same oldthings,as reading and spenting alot time on the coputer isn't her thing. you could have her under you feet and not working at all
taylor swift
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
The simple solution is to kick ur daughter's butt out of the house. Reality will smack her in the face once she's out on her own. Just give her a date by which she should find a full-time job and get her own place, and make sure she knows you're being serious!
justin bieber
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
Let me ask you this, who is paying the bills? Does she pay rent, is she paying for her own car, gas, and insurance? Does she buy her own clothes, did she buy her computer, and is she paying the internet, and phone bill? If she is, then she is just doing what she enjoys doing at this stage in her life. She isn't married, or tied down so she is free to just enjoy her life. Don't worry about her, she will find a guy sooner or later and move out anyways.On the other hand, I have a feeling that she isn't paying for anything, since you didn't mention her having a job to go to during the day. In that case, she is still doing what she wants to do, but not having any consequences for doing it. Wouldn't you do whatever you liked to do, if you didn't have to pay for anything and no one was setting any limitations on you? I know I would, and I think that most of America would love a free ride on Easy Street. If you want her to be an independent woman, you will have to close the purse and tie up the strings in a knot. Take away anything that she is not paying for, the computer, her phone, the internet, her car, don't give her gas money, or club money. Close up the bank and put an "Out of Business" sign on the door. She is a spoiled brat and using you for all your worth. She doesn't listen to you, because she doesn't respect you, and doesn't want to listen to reason. That would interfere with her free ride at your expense. I know that you love her, but handing her everything that she wants is NOT doing her any favors in life. You are actually holding her back from developing any coping skills in the "real" world, the one that most of us live in. One day, she will have to survive on her own, and she won't have a clue as how to get by without someone paying her way. She won't ever have any backbone, or willpower to get a job, and have a real life if she is handed everything that she wants. Whatever is wrong with your daughter, you are an enabler and have to take responsibility for helping make her that way. Let go of what she once was, and accept how she is now. That is your reality, and hers. Let her go, and learn how to be a grown-up with a chance to find real happiness in finding out what she is truly capable of without it being spoon fed to her. No one appreciates something if it is given to them all of the time without them ever having to work for it. It takes away their self pride, and destroys their confidence in their own ability to achieve great things in their life, all on their own. She will fight you tooth and nail when you start to take away her privileges, just explain to her that these things are not hers, and not her "right" to have them. They are privileges paid for by you, and that you no longer feel that she deserves them for her lack of participation in the family, or in the "real" world, ie: no job, no money, no responsibilities, no respect whatsoever. Source(s): Raised three daughters and survived! They are all living on their own and very happy, not that it was always smooth going or easy.
taylor lautner
March 15th, 2010 on 9:34 pm
hello! my sister is JUST LIKE THAT! my mother complains all the time too! IF you are nice to her, she may change? Source(s): PERSONAL EXPERIENCE