plzzz help us out.confused………..?

by admin on Mar.15, 2010, under STAYING YOUNG

Plzzz help us out.confused………..?

ASKM.Its a family problem well. we r a family of 5 consisting of my mom , dad, my sister, my grandma [maternal] & me.my dad stays in other place nd we in a different one.my parents r working. so by ALLAH'S grace we dont have any financial problem.my grandma also gets her pension.we r a middle class family.i hav done my undergraduation & my sister is in higher secondary.Now my dad's elder brother has 2 sons & 2 daughters.they are not soooo well to do financially.but by ALLAH'S grace they can spend their livelyhood.but his girls r very fashionable.they showoff. we r not bothered abt it. one among the two has got a job in my place. they did it wantingly because they knew it we r here nd 2 support her.she shall earn 12,000 per month but still they dont want 2 spend for her stay.they want her to stay in my home.it is confirmed that they dont shoulder any financial support of their daughter with us.k ths should till when? this girl will not help out us in any household chores. my mom is also a working lady.she is even growing older.she cant do the work as she used to in her younger days.this girl will only dress up & sit.thats it.now how to deny them. i feel that whether i am going against islam which preaches 2 help? even these girls marriage should be done by my dad only. my dad is not understanding that still his own daughters have to be settled in life.he had helped his other brothers & sisters financially.they dont care abt him now & he feels for this too. well fine we dont expect anything from them. if my mom questions anything about my dad's salary he clearly tells that what is she doing with her salary. my mom does a lot for us. i dont know how to convince my dad. well i need help in the light of islam.

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6 Comments for this entry

lady gaga
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
Wrong sectionNo SalamNo Al hamdoullahNo InshAllahnot even an AminWhere is Allah?You have left Allah SWT for your duyniaReturn to your book and the ways of the Rasool SAWTALK TO ALLAH! NOT US!Talking about your family and personal stuff on here to strangers is haram.PLease correct yourself inshAllah amin
Vanessa Hudgens
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
Just ask her nicely to pull her weight and help out. Say that everyone living in that house has a part to play
miley cyrus
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
The best way 2 spoil relations is 2 live with relatives.If u resent her now it is going 2 get worse in future.
taylor swift
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
ShireenAs the other member Ankaboot put it, such matters are not to be discussed in public forum. However, I will advise you to first shed the feeling of jealousy with your cousin sister. Next, talk to her nicely and invite her to share your home chorus in such a way that she should not feel like you are commanding her to do. Being a Muslim lady her parents and your parents did the right thing to accommodate her in your home. Staying at home without paying any rent etc. is not your problem. This is a matter for the elders to decide. But it also becomes her duty to take care of the elders and behave with love with the cousin sisters. If she is so stupid to understand, being a wise and nice girl you are, you can always handle the situation tactfully creating situations in such a way that she too gets involved voluntarily in doing cooking, cleaning and other chorus of the house. Periodically enquire about her parents and tell her that you love them.Your parents, you and your sister will surely get ajar from Allah Subhanahuta'la for your patience, tolerance and indulgence. Do not avoid her any time in any place and in any talk. Take her always into confidence and if she is elder than you, ask her advice in some matters, so that she feels great and come to your help as and when you need. Being children you should be friendlier keeping the relationship intact with your relatives, though your parents at some point quarrel with them. You should not interfere in the quarrel of elders and pass any nasty comments.May Allah create love between your hearts and bestow with peace.Assalaamu Alaikum
Vanessa Hudgens
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
In Islam one has to give first priority in supporting to his own family, Viz, Parents, wife and children, Then to his close relatives and then distant relatives and neighbors and then others who are needy Other wise he will be answerable to God in Judgement day.
Vanessa Hudgens
March 15th, 2010 on 9:31 pm
Wa alaikum salam So basically, you are inviting that girl, to come work for and you pay them 12, 000, then she doesnt help you out in your house. Sit and eat like an elephant each day?Are you seriously going to allow to live her with you. The parents dont want to take responsibility of her even though they gave birth to her. Why SHOULD your dad do THEIR marriages? I do not get it. If they did NOT have money then it is a different story.plus you DONT NEED an expensive marriage. Look at the beloved Marriage of Rasulullah (saws) and Aisha, look at Ali (ra) marriage with Fatimah (ra), DID THEY WASTE MONEY????You should tell your dad all the answers you read here. Either do this and save yourself some injustice or drown in your own loss by not telling him these answers.May Allah help you in making the right decisions and not let injustice touch you and your family. Ameen