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thanks in advance for reading this… it will be EXTREMELY LONG!!

im a 21 year old with 2 boys older son is 21 months and younger son is 5 weeks old. i am a stay at home mother and my husband works full time.

my 21 month old son seems to be out of control. He hardly listens when i say no!!.. we went to my younger cousins 5th birthday party today and my son was just out of it. when we arrived there were a bunch of kids sitting in the lounge room watching hi 5. i told my son to sit down and take his shoes off and watch tv like the other kids. He did as told for about 2 minutes then he got up and started to turn off the tv and play with the dvd player and sound system i told him no and he stopped. When i turned my back he started again so my mother took him outside and fed him some dinner. After dinner he came inside again and did the same thing also this time playing with the house phone wen told no he would still do it this time he wouldnt back away we had to grab him and take him outside to where myself and other s were sitting so i could keep an eye on him. i told him to sit down which he refused and kept trying to go back inside and play with the tv. there were plenty of other kids but he didnt even look at them he didnt want to seem to play with them even his own uncles and aunts (who are 5 and 10) and he knows them well. then it came to cake time!! everybody elses kid stood around and sang while mine was trying to poke at the cake and steal the cutlery to play with!! as everyone got a slice of cake they all sat down next to their mothers and ate but my boy was running around touching things AGAIn and my grandmother was chasing him around and feeding him and telling him to sit down (i was feeding bub). i feel so embarrased everyone was just looking at my son as a spoilt brat and loooking down on me so badly. im at the verge of crying right now!!

wen i gave birth he had my mother, brother, dad, grandmother and plenty of my aunties coming over daily to look after him for about 2 weeks and his behaviour was just so bad he didnt listen to anyone didnt eat and would chuck a fit!! before this he never would have a fit!! i know bcoz he wasnt the only one in the house anymore but once i was better and didnt need other people over daily he started to return to his normal self again. but since about 2 days ago he has started to act like he did when i gave birth i even managed to teach him to say thank u and where rubbish goes but now all that is gone!!.. i know he touched things at the birthday party bcoz our house is pretty much 80% baby proof and everything is out of reach so he would have been excited to touch.. i mean we have a gate to block him off from the kitchen and every few days he gets in there he is so happy. he also likes to play with remotes and phones and things so now when im done using these things i put them up high out of his sight to avoid any tantrums.. i have him on a waiting list at a early learning centre for when he turns 2 but now im going to look at other places he can go to. to learn to share and play with other kids his age. also earlier today we went to the mall and he had a tantrum to get out of the parm so we let him loose and he was so happy to be running around i mean i cant blame him i wouldnt want to be locked up either so i was discussing with my husband that every 2 weeks we should take him to the kids play land so he can play with other kids and take any frustration from being at home all week out at the play land.. does this seem like a good idea??..

No harsh comments please im stressed out and upset as enough as it is!! any advice suggestions would be great!! thanks again