I have no choice? What should I do?

by admin on Mar.18, 2010, under STAYING YOUNG

0I am suffering. I am in debt. Hundreds and Thousands of dollars.

This has been happening for 10 months. I have been a stay at home mother since my first child, 13 years ago. We got into debt, we sacrificed some things, and my husband has been working 70-100 hours a week.

No difference. We are sinking. I have no other choice, but to go back to work as a childrens doctor/sugeon, 70 hours a week, 7 days a week.

I must go back on March 21st.

I have 6 children, I cannot see. Young children.

I do not want to put them in a daycare, because I bet they are expensive, these days, and they would complain not being at home.

Should I have my 13 year old son watch them?
Should I have a neighbor come wake them up, and feed them, and babysit them?
Should I have a nanny?

What can I do?

I dont want to go to work 70+ hours a week, and miss my childrens life, (Ages 13, 11, 7, 5, 3, 1).
I know I wont have any days off, nor vacations because we would be in debt even more.
But I dont want our family to be let down and us to suffer and not let them do sports and do and have fun things/toys!

What should I do?

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5 Comments for this entry

taylor swift
March 18th, 2010 on 11:57 pm
Don't listen to those other posters, they are being jerks. lots of people are struggling in this economy, that doesn't mean you shouldn't have had your kids. It's unfortunate that right now you can't be a stay at home mom, but unforseen things do happen, and it's great that you have a career to go back to so you can support your family. A thirteen year old is too young to handle all that by himself, plus he has to be in school, so what will you do with the little ones during the day anyway? I would recommend a Nanny. A good one will be on the more expensive side, but it shouldn't be more than it would be to have the 4 youngest in daycare. That way the kids can stay home where they are comfortable, be cared for by someone they come to know and trust, and you can work out with the Nanny how you want them cared for so you know it's done according to your desires and beliefs.
taylor lautner
March 18th, 2010 on 11:57 pm
Too bad you can't go back in time and have the forethought to not have so many children you cannot support. Nanny's are as expensive as daycare but that is what I would do. A 13 year old should not have so much of a responsibility as taking care of his siblings.Good luck:-/
taylor swift
March 18th, 2010 on 11:57 pm
Noway i would never let a 13 year old look after 5 small children. That's to much of a responsibility on him. He should be living his childhood not being mammy and daddy to his younger siblings. that's just wrong.Hiring a nanny its the only thing you can do.
lady gaga
March 18th, 2010 on 11:57 pm
you're FIRST problem was having too many kids. You can't afford them. That's YOUR fault!I doubt you have a 7 bedroom house and 2 large SUV's. Which is what you SHOULD have to properly care for that many kids, and that's the bare minimum.And you're blind? I'm confused.anyways, this is your OWN fault. I have no sympathy. You did this to yourself.
miley cyrus
March 18th, 2010 on 11:57 pm
budget budget budget!what are you spending all you're money on? if you're hubbys working that hard there has to be money coming in enough to support yall, so put aside money for bills and SAVE the rest! dont buy things you dont NEED! Spend it only on the bare necessities (food, electric, water, gas etc) you're 13yo and 11yo should have the responsibility to watch them, but i dont know you're kids and their maturity level so i cant make that decision. Do you trust them? Ask a friend. and pray about leaving you're kids for a job, a mother should raise her kids, not a stranger! Good luck with solving the problems…seek help in a church, and look into that path, it will help when you have God to rely on for you're needs!